Sperm Collection Day: What to Expect

When people picture IVF, much of the focus is on the female partner - hormone injections, egg collection, embryo transfer. But for male partners, sperm collection day is equally important. While the process is often physically straightforward, it can carry unexpected layers of pressure and emotion. Here’s what to expect from start to finish.

Before You Arrive

Most clinics will give you specific instructions in advance, such as avoiding ejaculation for 2–5 days before collection to maximise sperm quality. You might also be advised to avoid alcohol, smoking, or excessive heat (like saunas) in the days leading up to the appointment. If you’ve had a previous semen analysis, the clinic may use this as a baseline, but they’ll still need a fresh sample on the day of egg collection.

At the Clinic

On arrival, you’ll check in at reception and be directed to a private collection room. These rooms are designed for privacy, often with a lockable door, a sink, and access to adult magazines or videos (though many people prefer to use their own phone).
You’ll be given a sterile container with your name and date of birth clearly labelled. The clinic team will confirm the details and note the exact time you produce the sample - timing matters, as sperm should be processed quickly for best results.

How the Sample Is Collected

The most common method is masturbation into the sterile container. Some men find the setting awkward, especially with the pressure of knowing the eggs are being collected at the same time. It’s perfectly normal to feel stressed or even struggle to ejaculate under pressure. If you think this might be an issue, discuss options with the clinic in advance - you may be able to produce a sample at home (if you live close enough) or freeze a back-up sample beforehand.

For men with conditions like retrograde ejaculation, or those unable to produce a sample by masturbation, surgical sperm retrieval (PESA, TESA, or micro-TESE) may be arranged in advance.

After Collection

Once the sample is produced, hand it directly to the embryology team or a nurse. They’ll log the time, check the container for correct labelling, and take it straight to the lab. From here, the sperm is washed and prepared - a process that removes seminal fluid and selects the most motile, morphologically normal sperm for fertilisation. This preparation can take 30–60 minutes.

Emotional Side of the Day

Even though the physical process is simple, the emotional weight can be surprising. You might feel pressure to “perform” on demand, guilt if the sample isn’t perfect, or anxiety knowing the eggs are waiting in the lab. These feelings are completely normal. Talk to your partner and, if possible, do a trial run at home so the clinic setting feels less alien.

If You’re Using Frozen or Donor Sperm

For frozen sperm, the clinic will thaw the sample on the day of egg collection, following the same preparation process. If you’re using donor sperm, all the timing and lab work will be coordinated behind the scenes, but you’ll still be kept informed.

Sperm collection day may not be glamorous, but it’s a crucial part of the IVF process. Planning ahead, knowing the logistics, and discussing any worries openly can make the experience smoother. And while the focus is often on the eggs, remember: fertilisation takes both sides of the equation - and your contribution is just as vital.